You Deserved to Be Loved
I read something the other day that stuck with me. It went like this “You deserve to be loved without having to hide the parts of yourself you think are unlovable.” When I read this, it was like a revelation. That statement is so true. We do deserve to be loved without having to hide those parts we think are unlovable. We are created in God’s image. He loves us, unlovable parts and all. We deserve to love ourselves and we deserve love from others.
We can be real. We can be who we are. It is okay. When we can accept that, our lives and feelings become freed from the shackles that bind us with an emotional crippling that holds us back from many things including understanding that we can love ourselves warts and all.
When we can accept this fact, it is so much easier to allow ourselves to love others. We can accept there will always be things that we might find unlovable, however, the lovable outweighs the unlovable.
Find your self love. Embrace it all. Then find the love for others, embrace all of them. You will find that you will be better for it.
The Wise Woman of Abel
The wise woman of Abel I never knew about until I got grown. We never studied about this wonderful wise woman when I was a child. The reason, probably because it was too violent for the times.
What a sad reason not to study this woman. The story teaches so many lessons for men and women. It teaches the women how to be strong and wise, using logic and methodology for making a rational decision in a time of crises. It teaches the men that if they stop and listen, they may learn that women make sense.
The wise woman of Abel diverted a war, kept the people of God from killing each other over the crime of another. The wise woman of Abel used her logic to protect the innocent and collateral damage from occurring. She used respect, quiet calm to not only command respect but to command it in order to get her point across. She asked the right questions and made Joab stop and think about his decision to destroy the city. The wise woman of Abel knew how to be a negotiator, how to deescalate a volatile situation and kept her wits about her when all others were losing theirs. She was not afraid to stand up and be counted.
In the Lord’s church there are wise women, they do use logic, they use reason and they are strong enough to protect when the time arises. I want to be a wise woman of Abel. If you want to read the story and learn things read 2 Sam 14.
“Never trust your tongue when your heart is bitter. Hush until you heal.” I saw this saying on my facebook feed this morning and it stood out. As humans we have a tendency to let our mouth overload our brain when we are angry. We forget that we should filter our words carefully because once spoken they can never be recalled. We are told in the Bible to be angry but sin not. When we say things in anger or hurt, we sin.
We sing a song that goes “Angry Words let them never from the tongue unbridled slip. May the heart’s best impulse ever check them ere they soil the lip.”
Verse 3 says it all : “ Angry words are lightly spoken, Bitt’rest tho’ts are rashly stirred, Brightest links in life are broken, By a single angry word.”
These words are so true, relationships are destroyed, families are torn apart and self-destruction ensues when we allow angry words to control our hearts.
It takes ten seconds for one to stop, think and re-calibrate their thought process before saying something in anger. It takes ten seconds to remember how we would feel if those words were spoken to us in anger.
Words matter, they can either build up or tear down. They can be a calm in the storm, or they can be the storm. They can be a balm on a troubled soul or they can be hot oil that burns even more.
Never trust your tongue when your heart is bitter. Hush until you heal.