Tag: future

Being a Beautiful Woman

Proverbs 11:22 states “A Beautiful woman who lacks discretion is like a gold ring in a pig’s snout.” Think about that for a moment. A gold ring can be a beautiful thing. It shines, it stands out and it is worth something. However, when placed in a pig’s snout, it not only loses its value, it loses its luster.  The same thing can be said of a woman who has no discretion. For the sake of this post let us define the word discretion – Webster defines it this way ”  the right to choose what should be done in a particular situation : the quality of being careful about what you do and say so that people will not be embarrassed or offended : the quality of being discreet”    

Down through history women have the reputation of not being discreet. They appear not to have the ability to be careful of what they do or say so that others will not be embarrassed or offended. Take for example the celebrities of Hollywood and their many minions of followers during the last election when they wore pink hats and body suits that represented female parts. Their language when they stood up and spoke in front of t thousands of young women and older women. Their behavior when they were trying to make their point. It became what my mother used to call “common.” They had no pride in their character, their behavior or their reputation. It was as if they had placed a gold ring in the snout of a pig.

These same women complained because they have no respect from the male population. Sadly, they have been the culprit of that action. They have not demanded or claimed that respect. In fact, they have done the opposite. They have allowed themselves to become not only the gold ring in the snout of the pig, but in many instances the pig itself. They have rolled around in the mud of common behavior. They have allowed themelves to be disrespected. These same women who many are beautiful on the outside, are ugly on the inside. This ugly behavior is what comes to the surface and shines like a gold ring in the mud. Just like the pig with the gold ring in his nose – women without discretion are led by that same gold ring.

Ladies it is time we took back our beauty – to demand and command the respect that is due us. To understand that the promise was given to Eve in the garden after the sin was committed. That we are known by our speech and our actions. That our beauty is not the outward but by the discreet way we behave and speak. 

Let us as women remember we are beautiful and that beauty comes from within. That we hold the world in our hands by our behavior. That we are the example to others by our behavior. That we are the ones who keep the future alive. Let us be beautiful and not like the gold ring in the snout of a pig.   

pig with ring

Someone Once Asked…..

 

 

 

The other day as I was scrolling through my social media, I came across a saying that really resonated with me. My mother used to ask me this question but in a different form. The question was “Why do you always insist on taking the hard road?” I was not wise enough to answer her well. However, I think now I can even though she is not with me any longer here on earth. The answer to the question is simply this, “Why do you assume I see two roads.”

As we are on our road of life, sometimes we must take a path that maybe we did not see coming to teach us a lesson that will not only help us, but it might be of benefit to someone else. Sure, that road may be filled with potholes, and danger or even a collision or two. But they are there for a reason.

I know as a child I was not the easiest child to raise. I had my own mind from the time I was a toddler. I always went my own path. I guess I felt like I needed to know things to experience first hand things in order to learn. Did I make bad decisions, did I fall on my face. You bet. Did I disappoint my parents, on more than one occasion. Did I fail myself, you bet I did. Did I disappoint my creator, I have forgotten the times I did. And yet, I learned, sometimes I had to fall in that pothole more than once. I credit my Scot/Irish ancestors with that mindset. But I learned, eventually. For those of you who know the person you see today, I was not always that person. I was shy, timid, felt unworthy, unloved and unaccepted. I would not speak up, nor would I voice an opinion. I felt I had nothing to offer.  I strived to be all things to all people and in the end, I lost me. I felt that my words did not matter, that my worth did not matter and that no matter how much I strived, I would never matter. It took the hard road to show me that I mattered, if to no one else but God. I have been called harsh by some, even my own children in the past. Maybe   am. I know that if I am asked, I will speak up. If I see someone running out into the road and a truck is on a Collison course with them, I will try to pull them back. That is my road.

The “hard road” has taught me how to make my past experiences a guidepost not a hitching post and that is okay.

The point is this. As humans maybe we only see one road, and maybe that is okay. Maybe our journey will help someone else on their journey down their hard road. What we must remember is that our Creator is always by our side. He always walks with us and we always have a way to get out of those potholes.

 

Turn The Page

As 2018 draws to a close and once again we have a moment to reflect on the year that we will soon see in our rear view mirror, it is time to ask ourselves a question. Are we going to turn the page? Yes, turn the page. You see life is a book of sorts. Each day is a new chapter, a new phase a new beginning. The past is yesterday and the future is tomorrow.

What we have is today and if we don’t turn the page we get stuck in the past which affects our present and future. In fact, if we don’t turn the page we have neither present or future.

Things that happen in our life sometimes can and will create a void – a place where we get stuck because we dread the next page – we become afraid, or  the prospect of turning the page is too painful, due to a loss or an illness.

The question we have to ask is this, How do we know how the story goes if we don’t turn the page. How do we know what is next if we don’t turn the page. The answer is simple we don’t know. We waste time that we could be using to shine by refusing to turn the page.

So, with all things of the past year in mind, all the tragedies, triumphs, successes and not so good successes, do not be afraid to turn the page.

“Carpe diem quam minimum credula postero”  Which is translated,   “seize the day, trusting as little as possible in the future” in other words, turn the page. You might be surprised.

 

old book